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Alcohol and Abuse

June 16, 2010 on 11:16 am | In Law, abuse, alcoholics, alcoholism, binge drinking, codependent, domestic abuse, drinking, drunk, elder drinking, marijuana, police, probation, recovery, underage drinking | No Comments

Alcoholism and Abuse. Is there a connection?                   

Take the 20 Question Quiz

Whether drinking alcohol has a cause-and-effect relationship with domestic abuse is uncertain, researchers claim, but the truth is violence is a part of many alcoholic homes.

Alcohol may not be a cause of domestic abuse, but it sure seems to be a catalyst.  One of my wives was very violent.  After broken ribs, sucker punches and aches and pains that came as a direct result of flying objects, I realized that I had better divorce her before I woke up dead!

I want to thank about.com/alcoholism for their look into this ugly side of alcoholism and abuse.

Domestic Abuse Screening Quiz

Is your relationship like most other couples, or has it developed into one that is truly abusive? This screening quiz can help you determine whether you might be involved in an abusive relationship. Answer: Yes or No.

Has your relationship developed into abuse?

Q: Has your partner ever told you that ‘it will never happen again’ but it has?

Q: Have you every lied to anyone about how you received cuts, bruises or scratches?

Q: Do you get anxious or nervous when you have to relay ‘bad news’ to your partner?

Q: Do you sometimes feel like you are ‘walking on eggshells’ to keep from making your partner angry or upset?

Q: Does your partner sometimes embarrass you or criticize you in front of others?

Q: Do you avoid disagreeing with your partner’s opinions or voicing your own opinions?

Q: Does your partner ever accuse you of lying about where you have been or who you were with?

Q: Has your partner’s behavior stopped you from inviting friends or family to your home?

Q: Does your partner ever accuse you of having affairs or otherwise act jealously without cause?

Q: Has your partner ever destroyed any of your belongings or household items?

Q: Does your partner regularly threaten to harm you physically or make threatening gestures?

Q: Has your partner ever threatened to take your children away if you ever try to leave?

Q: Do you sometimes change your plans or cancel outings to avoid your partner’s reaction?

Q: Does your partner blame your behavior or attitude for hitting you?

Q: Do you sometimes think that nothing you do is ever ‘good enough’ to please your partner?

Q: Has your partner ever stopped you from going out or doing something that you wanted to do?

Q: Does your partner always claim to be right even when the opposite is obvious?

Q: Has your partner ever threatened suicide to keep you from leaving?

Q: Have you ever been coerced into having sex with your partner?

Q: Has your partner ever threatened to kill you if you try to leave?

The higher your score the more likely you are in an abusive relationship. If your score is 25 percent or less, domestic abuse is unlikely. 25-50 percent, abuse is possible, and if you score more than 50 percent, it is very likely that your relationship has become abusive. Based on my relationship of my ex-wife, my score was 85%.

Study reveals domestic “predictors of death”

Research of domestic violence-related deaths has revealed that in 83 percent of the cases, the victim was either separated or about to terminate the relationship, giving scientific basis for the long-held belief that the most dangerous time for those involved in abusive relationships is when they try to leave.